By ‘Alqama reported: While I was walking with ‘Abdullah at
Mina, ‘Uthman happened to meet him. He stopped there
and began to talk with him. Uthman said to him: Abu
‘Abd al-Rahman, should we not marry you to a young girl
who may recall to you some of the past of your bygone
days; thereupon he said: If you say so, Allah’s Messenger
(may peace be upon him) said: 0 young men, those among
you who can support a wife should marry, for it restrains
eyes from casting (evil glances). and preserves one from
immorality; but those who cannot should devote
themselves to fasting for it is a means of controlling
sexual desire.
Many of my dear immigrants that come from many of the
countries that are in a state of war, or come to this country
on student visas and near by Puerto Rico, you have to
give them the respect that is due to them because of their
efforts. Islamic values is the last thing on their minds and
most of the sisters are looking for true Islamic values
when they get married.
Except when their husbands get their degree and
want to go back home.
When their get their green card and go back home to
marry Habiba and to bring her back to live in your
same town.
They are not looked upon with the respect of converts
or marriageable.
What we need is the Imams that are marrying them
Sunnah with no counseling to counsel them according to
Islamic laws and according to the laws of the country they
are living in.
Many say that Imam Yusef is hard on the intercultural
marriages, no it’s the farthest from my mind what I am
against people marrying for the wrong reasons, many of
the sisters have been married various times with the same
results.
Narrated Anas bin Malik: A group of three men came to the houses of the wives of
the Prophet asking how the Prophet worshipped (Allah), and when they were
informed about that, they considered their worship insufficient and said, “Where
are we from the Prophet as his past and future sins have been forgiven.” Then one
of them said, “I will offer the prayer throughout the night forever.” The other said,
“I will fast throughout the year and will not break my fast.” The third said, “I will
keep away from the women and will not marry forever.” Allah’s Apostle came to
them and said, “Are you the same people who said so-and-so? By Allah, I am more
submissive to Allah and more afraid of Him than you; yet I fast and break my fast,
I do sleep and I also marry women. So he who does not follow my tradition in
religion, is not from me (not one of my followers).”
If we say we are Muslims then all of these disparities
must be dealt with by all of us, the only virgin that the
Prophet SAW) married was Aisha (RA) all the others
were previously married, he had big respect for his first
wife Khadijah (RA) yet when our dear uneducated
brothers come with all of the nonsense that they bring
from they forget that they are dealing with Allah’s
servants. If they say they are Muslims and treat our sisters
with the respect that any Muslims deserve, a big shoutout
the Bangladesh community they are one of the most open
society, I know very well during my two trips to
Chittagong, Bangladesh.
For some reason we have to acquire the respect of the
Arab community or we need to sit down with our
respected Sheikh’s from the Arab community and to see
where we can make an Islamic marriage document, that
we can issue after counseling and to see who are the
culprits that are bringing this madness to us. What we
need is unity of this deen.
“There is none worthy of worship besides Allah, He is all
by Himself, He has no partner, His is the Kingdom, for
Him is all praise, He has power over all things. O Allah,
make Nur in my heart, in my ears Nur and in my eyes
Nur. O Allah open my chest (bosom), make my tasks easy
and I seek refuge in You from the whispers of the chest,
from disorganization in working and from the punishment
of the grave. O Allah, I seek refuge in You from the evils
that come with the wind”.
From a famous American “can we all get along”